Anna Jobe - ski racer
I am posting the following as a great guideline for those of us that are coaches, teachers and parents so that we remember to keep our perspective. I am spending the next few days watching the Junior Olympics and am reminded every moment of this competition of Benjamin Zander's words. He speaks about our "universe being alive with sparks" and that we have "an infinite capacity to light a spark of possibility". He also says that "passion, not fear is the igniting force". As I watch these young 8th and 9th graders, full of sparks, possibility and passion for their sport, I feel so very lucky to just observe. The advice marked in red below is the best I have found to help us keep our perspective and to help the children we teach, coach or parent to strive for their best, not to be afraid of failure, and to embrace the challenge.
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Do's and Don'ts for Sport Parents
(this is just a portion from this article that fits in well with "The Art of Possibility" that we have been studying by Benjamin Zander)
Do for your Children:
• Provide guidance for your children, but do not force or pressure them.
• Assist them in setting realistic goals for participation.
• Emphasize fun, skill development and other benefits of sports participation, e.g., cooperation,
competition, self-discipline, commitment.
• Show interest in their participation: help them get to practice, attend competitions, ask questions.
• Provide a healthy perspective to help children understand success and failure.
• Emphasize and reward effort rather than results.
• Intervene if your child's behavior is unacceptable during practice or competitions.
• Understand that your child may need a break from sports occasionally.
• Give your child some space when need. Part of sports participation involves them figuring things out
for themselves.
• Keep a sense of humor. If you are having fun and laughing, so will your child
• Provide regular encouragement.
• Be a healthy role model for your child by being positive and relaxed at competitions and by having
balance in your life.
• GIVE THEM UNCONDITIONAL LOVE: SHOW THEM YOU LOVE THEM WHETHER THEY
• WIN OR LOSE!!!
About the Author:
Michael A. Taylor an Instructor for the Stanford
University based Positive Coaching Alliance, a long-time member of the United States Elite Coaches Association
and a former gym owner.
Taylor, M. (2010) Do's and don'ts for sports parents. United States Ski and Snowboard Association
Retrieved March 19, 2010 from http://www.ussa.org/magnoliaPublic/ussa/en/formembers/parents/about.html
1 comments:
After observing your work and being in Wimba with you over the past 11 months, I have no doubt that your project will be amazing and will meet all your expectations once it is finished. You settle for nothing but the best in yourself and have always been supportive of the rest of us in this program as well.
I always hear a sense of humor in your voice and in your work, even though you are a bright, serious student. Hold on to that positive attitude and I am sure your project will mature nicely. Survival of the fittest!
Kudos to a job well done. I can't wait to meet you and everyone else in this program in May. I am sure that you will finish with flying colors. Look at it as practice for wearing those odd sleeves on our graduation gowns!